If you want to know whether she’s open to kissing girls, you can bring up some lesbians in the popular media, such as K. D. Lang, Ellen, the Indigo Girls, or a number of other women. If she’s excited to talk about them and mentions more gay content, then it may be more likely that she’s open to kissing girls. Though liking these women doesn’t make her a lesbian, it indicates that she’s accepting of women who like to kiss women. If you know the girl pretty well, you can also just try casually asking her if she’s kissed a girl before. Even if you’re both just bi-curious, this conversation shouldn’t make her feel too uncomfortable if she knows you well enough. You can also just bring up other girls kissing to gauge her reaction. You can say, “Did you see Mandi and Anna kissing each other in the halls?” See what she thinks.
If she’s always complimenting your looks and doesn’t do it in a superficial way, then she may be telling you that she likes you. If she’s looking at your lips and makes intense eye contact, then she may want to kiss you. Just keep in mind that if you’re both straight and just want to experiment, then it’s different from you being straight and wanting to kiss your lesbian friend just for fun. If you think it would be “cool” to make out with your lesbian friend but don’t really have feelings for her, she may be very offended and think that you don’t take her sexuality seriously.
Invite her over to watch a movie. Dim the lights and watch her body language as the movie progresses. You could try to kiss her during the movie or afterward. Invite her over for a sleepover. If you’re the right age, then having a sleepover can be a good way to get more intimate with the girl and to try to get her to kiss you in a private place. Just make sure you read the signs carefully and try it when it’s almost time for bed. If you try to kiss her right away and she’s not into it, that would make for an awkward evening. Go for a walk to a private place in the evening. Go for a walk through a park or garden as the sun is setting and find a private spot there. This would also be a more romantic setting.
Try touching her hair. Tell her you like her hair or the way she’s styled it. Touch her jewelry and tell her you like them. This is a sneaky way to get closer to her. Gently graze her arm or shoulder. Keep making physical contact as you’re talking. Lean closer to her. If you’re lying down, move your body closer to her as you speak.
If she resists at all, calm her nerves by saying, “Are you scared?” If she says yes, tell her not to be, and just give her a nice hug and let her go. If she says, “A little,” ask, “Of me?” If she says no, you should move closer to her.
That doesn’t mean you make it a chaste, boring kiss either - part your lips slightly, making sure they’re kissable and soft by licking them slightly. When you kiss her, hold her and make it romantic and sweet. If this is your first kiss of many with this girl, you’ll both have very fond memories of this moment, so make it count. If your kiss starts getting more intense, you can let your hands wander if you are exploring each other’s bodies. If the girl is shyer, she may be waiting for you to make more of the moves. Making “the” move is the most detrimental part of getting her to kiss you. You need to be 100% prepared and sure that this is the decision you’re willing to make. Do you need to be sure that if this has a potential to ruin your friendship, do you really want to go through with it? After you kiss her smile don’t look awkward and uninterested, you can also give her a hug and snuggle together.
