Note: Most of these steps assume that you are looking for a romantic connection with a girl.
A common text most guys send would be “Hey. It’s John from the coffee shop, remember me?” This is a mistake. Just assume they remember you and they are anxiously awaiting your text. Asking if they remember you should only be in a flirty manner (i. e. you’re teasing her because she’d had a couple of drinks when you met her at a party).
Likely response #1. If she responds “Hey, who’s this?” you can have fun with her by making her guess or tease her for giving her number out to so many guys that she doesn’t know who’s talking to her. Likely response #2. If she responds: “Oh hey, is this John from the coffee shop?” Just respond “Hope you weren’t just waiting around with your phone in your hand all week to hear from me ;)” This is a bit cocky, pretty funny, and starts the flirting right away. Now it may not be manly to add smiley faces in messages, but it’s hard to tell if someone’s joking in text, especially if they don’t know you. Optional response. Another response you might want to throw in is: “So is this the cute blonde girl (or the brunette) I met on Wednesday?” or some variation. They will probably be a little shocked by your fortitude, but they will laugh.
You could also try calling her if she hasn’t responded after two days. If she doesn’t answer, leave a voice mail message saying something like this, “Hey, Tonya. It’s Rob. I sent you a text, but I wasn’t sure if it went through or not. I was just trying to touch base with you and see how you’re doing. “[3] X Research source If she doesn’t call you back or respond in a day or so, you should just leave her alone and move on.
Text her something concerned like, “Everything alright?” That way she knows that you noticed her lack of response, but you also care about her. If she still doesn’t respond, wait a week or so and send a casual text that sends the message that you are a cool guy with a busy schedule too. Say something like, “Hey, Tonya. I just got back from a weekend in the mountains. Just wanted to check in and see how things are with you. Talk soon. “[4] X Research source If she still doesn’t respond after a few days, then it’s time to move on.
